tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post4046622030045789776..comments2023-11-03T13:33:55.246+04:00Comments on Ïnside The Mind ؃ an insomniac: Q..PŕōuđPāŀĩhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-28779065906584667822008-02-24T05:00:00.000+04:002008-02-24T05:00:00.000+04:00Well, it is controversial, our social beliefs pull...Well, it is controversial, our social beliefs pulls the strings of our thoughts and lead us towards much predicted outcomes.<BR/><BR/>It’s nice to see that the majority of women are fine with the idea as long as they are not being forced or financially abused.<BR/><BR/>But waiting for an appreciation for sharing the burden is something beyond my comprehension, I mean what’s expected to be an appropriate appreciation? I hope this doesn’t end up as a constant reminder that the woman has had her share of help and thus making the man feeling less of a man (if that’s the right phrase).<BR/><BR/>I don’t know why, but I couldn’t help but to sense that some women feel reluctant to engage with a man who is approving her helping him.Touchéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02339693515655879143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-91180232101597258372008-02-19T11:57:00.000+04:002008-02-19T11:57:00.000+04:00touché: so what did u deduce after being enlighten...touché: so what did u deduce after being enlightened with the female's take on the subject?<BR/><BR/>i think its perfectly fine as long as they both agree to it. the idea of expecting it to happen is what bothers me personally. its not a must.PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-31461151412443107492008-02-19T09:58:00.000+04:002008-02-19T09:58:00.000+04:00kinzi: thanks sweets! w inshala i will have the fu...kinzi: thanks sweets! w inshala i will have the full report for u soon ;)PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-84903705599533405072008-02-19T09:40:00.000+04:002008-02-19T09:40:00.000+04:00pru: i know u do.. shufi ana ba2amen bil ijtihad, ...pru: i know u do.. shufi ana ba2amen bil ijtihad, but u have to know ur religion really well before doing that customizing part, just to make sure ur doing the right thing. i respect ur POV as well :)PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-57263497991001411972008-02-19T01:20:00.000+04:002008-02-19T01:20:00.000+04:00This is really interesting, knowing the female per...This is really interesting, knowing the female perspectives on the topic mentioned.<BR/><BR/>I’ve always wondered how the mentality has been affected during this crazy financial life with all the materialistic perspectives.<BR/><BR/>Many guys finds hard to allow their spouse to share the burden based on their brought up mentality that the guy is solely responsible to be THE bread earner.<BR/><BR/>Others find it totally legitimate to allow her for her share of the burden as it is getting more difficult than the old days.<BR/><BR/>Most guys and girls are stuck with the idea that if they start sharing then it is more like a partnership than a marriage which is supposed to be founded on a male’s shoulder.<BR/><BR/>There is no "my money", "your money" or funds transfer. It's ours and such details aren't supposed to be negotiated, planned and written down. I believe they are mutually agreed with no spoken words.Touchéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02339693515655879143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-50091621110564622162008-02-18T18:20:00.000+04:002008-02-18T18:20:00.000+04:00Dima, bastanaaki: kuul il 'ussa!I'm WAY honored yo...Dima, bastanaaki: kuul il 'ussa!<BR/><BR/>I'm WAY honored you thought I was an Arab. :) Just an overgrown, middle-aged California girl living in the Arab world! <BR/><BR/>Just so you know, too, I am a stay-at-home mom who free-lances. My hubby is our primary wage-earner, but he still includes me in all decision-making even if I only contribute a little bit. :) He feels like the time I invest in the kids and our home is equal to his salary. U'baalik!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-62942977493528707122008-02-18T17:59:00.000+04:002008-02-18T17:59:00.000+04:00lol salamet 3yonik; il daw mish awi bas ana tried ...lol salamet 3yonik; il daw mish awi bas ana tried to practice my non existent art skills on the poor picture and ruined it..not only that, i accidentally saved the ruined copy so..5afafet el saturation shway, hope it is better and easier on your eyes :)<BR/><BR/>YOu know Dima i have a problem with religion, especially when it comes to women! I know it is supposed to be timeless..unfortunately it's not! In my opinion it is very 7th century doctrine that it is hard for me to see how anyone can regard it otherwise. I don't expect you to agree with me of course and i respect your beliefs but it is wise to think outside the box. perhaps breaking the social mold altogether is a bad idea, but bending and adapthing it to our new life style is not.Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08708355991735867404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-37089467767056385282008-02-18T13:50:00.000+04:002008-02-18T13:50:00.000+04:00oudi: yes she shud..nimer: ahh i thought inno alti...oudi: yes she shud..<BR/><BR/>nimer: ahh i thought inno altimatum type, here r ur options qarreri w dabri rasek lolPŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-28124533854357914442008-02-18T13:48:00.000+04:002008-02-18T13:48:00.000+04:00pru: religion is timeless pru.. religion says IF s...pru: religion is timeless pru.. religion says IF she wants to help out its her choice, but initially the man cannot ask/demand her to help or take over her earned money/wealth. she has full control. and thats only fair i reckon.. <BR/><BR/>personally i think its VERY ok to pitch in, mitil ma elt la mo, up to 40% is very reasonable IMHO.. <BR/><BR/>love the pic btw, bas ktir il daw awi 8| in7awalet lolPŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-44997944560263581422008-02-18T13:46:00.000+04:002008-02-18T13:46:00.000+04:00pali:when u give someone an option then u r indire...pali:<BR/>when u give someone an option then u r indirectly letting him decide what he likes to do..same as an unspoken discussion right?Tigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01730362240865071117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-23433017309354755452008-02-18T13:31:00.000+04:002008-02-18T13:31:00.000+04:00Some women support the idea of being the bread win...Some women support the idea of being the bread winner, because it signifies their new and long-sought status in the society as equal partners to men. However, a woman should be wary of a man who is expecting her to pick up the bill right from the start.Oudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585713050524990051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-59166821175392568942008-02-18T13:24:00.000+04:002008-02-18T13:24:00.000+04:00It is accepted from both a social and religious ve...It is accepted from both a social and religious veiw point that a woman's income is her own and that it's the man's responsibility to provide for the family, but all these are just old ideas that have no reasonable explanation. If the woman has a good income then why NOT help?? Marriage is a partnership and both partners should do all they can to help each other out. It is not a woman's role to cook and clean while the man's role is to pay the bills. Maybe it used to be that way, but it no longer is!Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08708355991735867404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-54408658497301618872008-02-18T11:59:00.000+04:002008-02-18T11:59:00.000+04:00I know? O_o Sheklo my memory 3m todrob lol..As I a...I know? O_o Sheklo my memory 3m todrob lol..<BR/><BR/>As I already said, math is neglectable, but to formalize it I'd say 70-30 with me being the 70, and that's not a must again..Adooshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05489207176270438714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-56725546791990719532008-02-18T11:50:00.000+04:002008-02-18T11:50:00.000+04:00oudi: in our day and age, women live on their own ...oudi: in our day and age, women live on their own and women work and have indipendant lives and responsibilities even, and now that we have acheived that equality with men in terms of paying our own expenses in life, we know how hard and expensive it is to start a family and pay for two rather than one.. so why wud we expect a guy to be paying everything especially at the very beginning of a marriage.. when they're still starting up a household..<BR/><BR/>however, i agree with ur last paragraphPŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-41483918156987485842008-02-18T11:11:00.000+04:002008-02-18T11:11:00.000+04:00Although traditionally women expect men to take ca...Although traditionally women expect men to take care of the family financing business, it is becoming a trend to find men approving if not even seeking or demanding women’s support in going to school or raising the family.<BR/><BR/>I believe that a woman has a genuine right to expect support from the man, and not the other way around. This is certainly true if the two are planning a family. Since the woman is expected to give birth, and that alone is a major and difficult task.<BR/> <BR/>Saying that does not mean that women should stay home to take care of the children. The necessity of life these days may require both to work. However, if one has to stay home on a part-time or full-time basis, it should be the one who earns less.Oudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585713050524990051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-37435806802522019352008-02-18T10:51:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:51:00.000+04:00nimer: howweh m2a5ar bas ana ma a3lanet aslan la a...nimer: howweh m2a5ar bas ana ma a3lanet aslan la a3tab :D lol thanks, 3u2balak<BR/><BR/>howeh a guy will not be giving options heik la7alo, they will have to decide together, its a marriage, a union..PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-69398971225184788782008-02-18T10:14:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:14:00.000+04:00hala: thanks bannouteh :hug: 3u2balek ;)"I think I...hala: thanks bannouteh :hug: 3u2balek ;)<BR/><BR/>"I think I would feel disappointed if he tells me he cannot accept money from me because it makes me seem like a stranger" EXACTLY!!!! i wud feel the same way if this scenario happened! inno we r one.. <BR/><BR/>bless!PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-16094174731062880852008-02-18T10:12:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:12:00.000+04:00marv: thanks :D and stories like urs inspire me, i...marv: thanks :D <BR/><BR/>and stories like urs inspire me, its pure love! so many guys dont accept the idea of a woman being older, yet when love strikes, u dont care bout numbers.. age OR wealth. bless!<BR/><BR/>im sure it bothers any man if they're not going the full 100%, but it shudnt be a bigger bother if their wives pitch in.. they shudnt feel very confortable with it lol and end up moochers, but accept it if she wishes to help out..PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-34254718377877095352008-02-18T10:09:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:09:00.000+04:00dima: i know exactly what u mean, and i agree, the...dima: i know exactly what u mean, and i agree, there is no selfishness in these matters. allah ye7meekum :hug:PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-77907322792690000042008-02-18T10:07:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:07:00.000+04:00Maher: lol arya7 :D sugar daddy-in-law ;) thanks!Maher: lol arya7 :D sugar daddy-in-law ;) <BR/><BR/>thanks!PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-12686576406280817352008-02-18T10:06:00.001+04:002008-02-18T10:06:00.001+04:00Qwaider: so u wud accept it? coz fi shabab ma byer...Qwaider: so u wud accept it? coz fi shabab ma byerdo, inno 3ezzet nafs, ma3 inno i dont believe much in 3ezzet nafs when ppl r in love..PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-88173158077944912192008-02-18T10:06:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:06:00.000+04:00jundi: yes i agree, 70 on her is too much, 7atta 5...jundi: yes i agree, 70 on her is too much, 7atta 50 is extreme, 30 40 is just fine bi nazari. <BR/><BR/>and thanks, 3u2balak :)PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-76637305325634083742008-02-18T10:05:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:05:00.000+04:00asma: i have been for 6 months now lol donno why e...asma: i have been for 6 months now lol donno why everyone is surprised i keep saying my better half, my fiancé, my ba6ee5 mbasmer lol will make an official announcement when the official deal is done tho :D <BR/><BR/>yes it is not an obligation i believe, and no not coz he cant hold a job down, but only coz ur starting ur life together, is that so bad? i mean in a life like today, everything is really getting expensive by the day, a guy wont be able to provide fully until he is what 30-34? tayeb what if he byetdahwal and falls in love before that and wants to get married.. no?PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-25754103642014590682008-02-18T10:00:00.001+04:002008-02-18T10:00:00.001+04:00batoul: i fully agree! mwah!batoul: i fully agree! mwah!PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8556183393020908743.post-23821882440560840122008-02-18T10:00:00.000+04:002008-02-18T10:00:00.000+04:00kinzi: lol girl when the proper engagement 'ceremo...kinzi: lol girl when the proper engagement 'ceremony' happens i will blog about it til forever! <BR/><BR/>ur not arab? thought u were.. and no it doesnt make a difference to me at least.. marriage is marriage arab or non arab :) <BR/><BR/>i believe yes if ur starting together it gives the relationship a whole new meaning, patience, working together, bonding over burdens.. i think its amazing. God bless!PŕōuđPāŀĩhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12260569738710569953noreply@blogger.com