unisex q again.. how comfortable r u having an insanely more attractive partner?
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It's better to have honey and share it with everyone else, than to eat shit alone! :)
LOL
Now, the serious stuff. Every person needs to have something about them that attracts you. Unfortunately, TOO much of that something makes them a target for everyone. Be it beauty, Money, knowledge, influence ... you name it.
I say, enjoy it, while it lasts, you have to do double the effort to keep such a bird
I think the issue is more of whether he knows he's insanely more attractive or not.
Or if he has really hot sisters and a hot mamma?
Oh man great timing for this post. One of my insecurities about about my on/off crush whose in and out of my life is that I think he's so much better looking than me. However he doesn't seem think so.
If my partner recognizes it and is so good at flawnting it then I will beat the hell out of him lol. What matters is that he's accepting how I look and if he doesn't then why in the world did he choose me to be with. Love it or leave it :D
and about jealousy, I think I would be somewhat insecure but honestly.. relationships aren't tolerated if they dont fit my expectancies. I'm sure theres someone out there that could respect me for me. In other words, i'm not gonna go chasing a guy.
Your questions do entice people to participate. You are good at it.
The interesting thing about your question is that it contains the answer as well. Without being mean, the way the question is framed reflects a deep-entrenched insecurity. Unless he or she is very hideous, a confident person never feels that way about their partner. Confidence is a major element in being and feeling attractive. An average looking person with confidence is more likely to be more attractive, and I mean in the most sensual way, than someone with stunning beauty but with poor self-esteem.
I agree with Oudi, self-esteem surely makes a person more attractive but we all have our insecurities, no one is completely confident, the art of the so called self esteem lies in our ability to pretend that we aren't infact insecure about certain things. I also somewhat agree with Asoom and Batoul, the question is whether he recognizes that he is more attractive, if he does, then that's a different issue, but if he doesn't, and if he thinks I'm the most beautiful thing God created then he's a keeper hehe :D
I don't think that's ever happened to me. I am always attractive. My partners are usually attractive. It's not really an issue because I am not interested that much in appearances, and neither are my partners. If we're clean and well-groomed and personable and well-spoken, that counts for a lot more than just prettiness. (There are plenty of pretty people who can't put a coherent sentence together.)
If he thinks he’s more attractive and acts according to it then we’ll have a serious issue....lol…
i care about the person’s attitude, can’t stand people who are so full of themselves (even iza beytla3loun) so if he’s better looking than me but still thinks I’m the most attractive girl -at least to him- then it doesn’t really matter to me…
seriously, i think it will come down to how confident I am about myself and how big a snob he is. I am very confident about my looks, and if he is a snob then I probably won't spend long knowing him, if he's not then we won't have a problem.
I agree with arabesque; it depends on the partner's attitude. IF he/she is committed to the relationship and does not flirt or does any other funny business around the other sex then there's no reason for jealousy. However most of the couples i see are more or less equally attractive, or unattractive. In the case when one is much better looking then the other, there is something to make up for the looks..like money!
Sometimes I do hang out with women that I "look" alot better than them,but they got other things to compensate such as an amazing body,appearance,great personality "though the last one doesn't count in my book..yes I'm a shallow man" but mostly I tend to be the less looking partnet,and I never had a problem with that.
On this topic I must mention what one wise man once said "kol am7a msawseh 2ilha shayalha"..I'm sure lots of men out there are willing to "ysheelo"..so I'll exclude leave it to them.
asoom: lol glad it came at the right time, any clarity after all them comments?
shufi if he doesnt seem to think so, then its only in ur head, get it out of there so u wont push it out to reality.. coz we usually act upon what we think of until we actually ruin things to become identical to our imagination's vision..
oudi: thanks for the compliment but please do not psycho analyze me. everyone has their demons and everyone has some sort of insecurity..
i do however agree with the confidence bit, it does wonders to average looking and good looking ppl as well. yet there's a fine lne between confidence and cockiness.
and of course u wudnt mind it. men dont mind having a 'hot' partner. ba7ess byetbahou aslan.. but thats in a meaningless relationship i reckon. when it becomes serious, they wont flaunt their wives' looks to ppl..
anyway from my experience i think its better when you try to find a partner that is "compatible" .. whether in terms of age, social status, looks, interests, etc .. im not sayin go find a carbon copy of yourself but you get my point .. i mean its nice to pretend that love conquers all but reality is a completely different story .. imo ..
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It's better to have honey and share it with everyone else, than to eat shit alone! :)
LOL
Now, the serious stuff. Every person needs to have something about them that attracts you. Unfortunately, TOO much of that something makes them a target for everyone. Be it beauty, Money, knowledge, influence ... you name it.
I say, enjoy it, while it lasts, you have to do double the effort to keep such a bird
I think the issue is more of whether he knows he's insanely more attractive or not.
Or if he has really hot sisters and a hot mamma?
Oh man great timing for this post. One of my insecurities about about my on/off crush whose in and out of my life is that I think he's so much better looking than me. However he doesn't seem think so.
If my partner recognizes it and is so good at flawnting it then I will beat the hell out of him lol. What matters is that he's accepting how I look and if he doesn't then why in the world did he choose me to be with. Love it or leave it :D
and about jealousy, I think I would be somewhat insecure but honestly.. relationships aren't tolerated if they dont fit my expectancies. I'm sure theres someone out there that could respect me for me. In other words, i'm not gonna go chasing a guy.
Your questions do entice people to participate. You are good at it.
The interesting thing about your question is that it contains the answer as well. Without being mean, the way the question is framed reflects a deep-entrenched insecurity. Unless he or she is very hideous, a confident person never feels that way about their partner. Confidence is a major element in being and feeling attractive. An average looking person with confidence is more likely to be more attractive, and I mean in the most sensual way, than someone with stunning beauty but with poor self-esteem.
I agree with Oudi, self-esteem surely makes a person more attractive but we all have our insecurities, no one is completely confident, the art of the so called self esteem lies in our ability to pretend that we aren't infact insecure about certain things. I also somewhat agree with Asoom and Batoul, the question is whether he recognizes that he is more attractive, if he does, then that's a different issue, but if he doesn't, and if he thinks I'm the most beautiful thing God created then he's a keeper hehe :D
I don't think that's ever happened to me. I am always attractive. My partners are usually attractive. It's not really an issue because I am not interested that much in appearances, and neither are my partners. If we're clean and well-groomed and personable and well-spoken, that counts for a lot more than just prettiness. (There are plenty of pretty people who can't put a coherent sentence together.)
If he thinks he’s more attractive and acts according to it then we’ll have a serious issue....lol…
i care about the person’s attitude, can’t stand people who are so full of themselves (even iza beytla3loun) so if he’s better looking than me but still thinks I’m the most attractive girl -at least to him- then it doesn’t really matter to me…
i don't think a guy exists in my case :p
seriously, i think it will come down to how confident I am about myself and how big a snob he is. I am very confident about my looks, and if he is a snob then I probably won't spend long knowing him, if he's not then we won't have a problem.
I agree with arabesque; it depends on the partner's attitude. IF he/she is committed to the relationship and does not flirt or does any other funny business around the other sex then there's no reason for jealousy. However most of the couples i see are more or less equally attractive, or unattractive. In the case when one is much better looking then the other, there is something to make up for the looks..like money!
Sometimes I do hang out with women that I "look" alot better than them,but they got other things to compensate such as an amazing body,appearance,great personality "though the last one doesn't count in my book..yes I'm a shallow man" but mostly I tend to be the less looking partnet,and I never had a problem with that.
On this topic I must mention what one wise man once said "kol am7a msawseh 2ilha shayalha"..I'm sure lots of men out there are willing to "ysheelo"..so I'll exclude leave it to them.
Q: interesting.. and LOL 3ala 7kmet il youm!
asoom: lol glad it came at the right time, any clarity after all them comments?
shufi if he doesnt seem to think so, then its only in ur head, get it out of there so u wont push it out to reality.. coz we usually act upon what we think of until we actually ruin things to become identical to our imagination's vision..
batoul: its not bout him flaunting it, its bout u seeing it in other women's eyes! lol keif il dramatic effect :D
well i wasnt talking bout chasing anyone, no woman shud do that! but im saying u already have someone and he cleans up nice lol
oudi: thanks for the compliment but please do not psycho analyze me. everyone has their demons and everyone has some sort of insecurity..
i do however agree with the confidence bit, it does wonders to average looking and good looking ppl as well. yet there's a fine lne between confidence and cockiness.
khouloud: he sure is! lol
marv: and here comes the fine line! lol (check my reply to oudi to know what im talking bout) j/k :D
mayous, wonders, pru: i agree with u, if he doesnt have a snobbish attitude, and finds me the most beautiful then there shudnt be a prob!
and lol pru, money? really? i donno, im not the type who evaluates a guy by how deep his pocket is.. but im sure a lot of women r..
mr. anon: u sure r shallow!
and of course u wudnt mind it. men dont mind having a 'hot' partner. ba7ess byetbahou aslan.. but thats in a meaningless relationship i reckon. when it becomes serious, they wont flaunt their wives' looks to ppl..
it can be a problem but it doesnt have to be ..
anyway from my experience i think its better when you try to find a partner that is "compatible" .. whether in terms of age, social status, looks, interests, etc .. im not sayin go find a carbon copy of yourself but you get my point .. i mean its nice to pretend that love conquers all but reality is a completely different story .. imo ..
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