Tuesday, January 22, 2008

would you

volunteer to be a surrogate at any point of your life? or would you let your wife/sister/daughter one day help another desperate couple by being a surrogate?

and please treat this as a theoretical question, meaning set aside the religious side of the matter..

8 comments:

Adoosh said...

You cannot set aside religion Dima! It's our rules of conduct!

And form this perspective, the answer is big fat NO.

PŕōuđPāŀĩ said...

ya a5i go with the flow! 5alli sadrak shway ra7b! eft! ma 3am balghi inno 7aram bil deen, bas ana ma 3am ba7ki bi deen hala2, i am asking from a humane point of view..

Adoosh said...

6ayyeb 6ayyeb, 7elmek 3alayy..

7o66y el.deen 3a janeb, still the answewr is NO..

Helping others is good, but putting your life (or your wife's, sister's etc) at risk for the others NO..

PŕōuđPāŀĩ said...

adoosh: what risk? if she were to give birth to her own family the risk disappears ya3ni?

personally, if it werent taboo, i wud do it. what better way to help someone who cant conceive and is desperate to have a family? but then again, thats me :D

Adoosh said...

it wouldn't. But it would be for the sake of your own child, your own blood and flesh. Big difference!

Marvin said...

I am too selfish to be a surrogate. Plus, not much room in a male body for such. However, if my wife wanted to do it, it would be her choice. My only concern would be any risks to her health, or of any incurred costs. If those factors are removed, then I would be fine with it. I don't own her or control her. She is her own woman, much as you are. To me, it's more of a business transaction, unless she were carrying the child on behalf of a family member, in which case it could be business, or simply a favor.

I think a stickier question is, how much of a role would you be allowed to have in the new child's life, after birth? I think it would be easiest for all concerned if there was no contact after birth. But if the adoptive parents permitted it, it would be nice to be Aunt and Uncle Marvin. At some point when the child is old enough, the child's origin could be explained to it, if the adoptive parents wished it. That would be an interesting conversation.

Qwaider قويدر said...

Since I can't be (even if I wanted). The only alternative is to be a sperm donor, which I would happily do for ladies in need. You know .. it's duty... akh..

PŕōuđPāŀĩ said...

adoosh: wejhet nazar :)

marv: thanks! if all risk factors were set aside and religious aspects as well, i wudnt have any problem with making a miracle happen to a loving couple..

qwaider: lol ready to spread ur blessed genes rnt u! :evil:

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